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The [[Essential]] [[Phowa]] [[meditation]], introduced in [[The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying]] | The [[Essential]] [[Phowa]] [[meditation]], introduced in [[The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying]] | ||
by [[Sogyal Rinpoche]], is adapted from a [[Buddhist meditation]] normally used for the time of | by [[Sogyal Rinpoche]], is adapted from a [[Buddhist meditation]] normally used for the time of | ||
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dying and [[death]]. This [[meditation]] is written in a way that anyone can relate with, whether or | dying and [[death]]. This [[meditation]] is written in a way that anyone can relate with, whether or | ||
not they are affiliated with a [[faith]] [[tradition]]. However, it can also be used to support [[physical]] | not they are affiliated with a [[faith]] [[tradition]]. However, it can also be used to support [[physical]] | ||
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and [[emotional]] [[healing]] and to [[transform]] [[suffering]], [[guilt]] or [[grief]]. If we have a loved one who | and [[emotional]] [[healing]] and to [[transform]] [[suffering]], [[guilt]] or [[grief]]. If we have a loved one who | ||
is ill, or in [[pain]], or facing [[death]], we can quietly do this [[meditation]] to help bring them [[peace]]. | is ill, or in [[pain]], or facing [[death]], we can quietly do this [[meditation]] to help bring them [[peace]]. | ||
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[[Essential]] [[Phowa]] is an effective [[spiritual]] guidance for [[people]] at the [[moment of death]], to | [[Essential]] [[Phowa]] is an effective [[spiritual]] guidance for [[people]] at the [[moment of death]], to | ||
guide their [[consciousness]] to a [[state]] of [[peace]], clarity, and freedom. | guide their [[consciousness]] to a [[state]] of [[peace]], clarity, and freedom. | ||
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There are recordings of two versions: [[Essential]] [[Phowa]] for Oneself, and [[Essential]] | There are recordings of two versions: [[Essential]] [[Phowa]] for Oneself, and [[Essential]] | ||
[[Phowa]] for Others. | [[Phowa]] for Others. | ||
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we lived our [[life]], and the [[state]] of our [[mind]] and [[heart]] in that [[moment]]. Of course, we cannot | we lived our [[life]], and the [[state]] of our [[mind]] and [[heart]] in that [[moment]]. Of course, we cannot | ||
change the way someone lived, but this [[meditation]] has the power to {{Wiki|purify}} a person’s [[mind]] | change the way someone lived, but this [[meditation]] has the power to {{Wiki|purify}} a person’s [[mind]] | ||
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and [[heart]] while they are dying. If the dying [[person]] is confused or in a coma, we may see | and [[heart]] while they are dying. If the dying [[person]] is confused or in a coma, we may see | ||
[[signs]] that the [[meditation]] is still having an effect on their [[mind]] and [[heart]]. | [[signs]] that the [[meditation]] is still having an effect on their [[mind]] and [[heart]]. | ||
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By doing the [[Essential]] [[Phowa]] regularly and observing the effect, our [[confidence]] | By doing the [[Essential]] [[Phowa]] regularly and observing the effect, our [[confidence]] | ||
grows in its power to [[benefit]] [[people]] at such a crucial [[moment]]. And, we come to realize that | grows in its power to [[benefit]] [[people]] at such a crucial [[moment]]. And, we come to realize that | ||
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this [[meditation]] is a meaningful way of communicating heart-to-heart with others. Even | this [[meditation]] is a meaningful way of communicating heart-to-heart with others. Even | ||
[[visualizing]] a [[loving]] presence while we’re working or sitting in a hospital room creates an | [[visualizing]] a [[loving]] presence while we’re working or sitting in a hospital room creates an | ||
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This [[meditation]] is especially effective in the first days or weeks after someone has | This [[meditation]] is especially effective in the first days or weeks after someone has | ||
[[died]] and, it can be [[offered]] any time afterwards, even years later. | [[died]] and, it can be [[offered]] any time afterwards, even years later. | ||
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If you have a [[friend]] or [[family]] member who is open to {{Wiki|learning}} this [[meditation]], you | If you have a [[friend]] or [[family]] member who is open to {{Wiki|learning}} this [[meditation]], you | ||
can share this with them. [[People]] adapt it in all sorts of ways to make it work for them. Some | can share this with them. [[People]] adapt it in all sorts of ways to make it work for them. Some | ||
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who was {{Wiki|comatose}} following a [[suicide]] attempt. All night long, she silently [[offered]] her | who was {{Wiki|comatose}} following a [[suicide]] attempt. All night long, she silently [[offered]] her | ||
[[spiritual practice]] for him, which is called The {{Wiki|Jesus}} [[prayer]]: “Lord, {{Wiki|Jesus Christ}}, have [[mercy]] on | [[spiritual practice]] for him, which is called The {{Wiki|Jesus}} [[prayer]]: “Lord, {{Wiki|Jesus Christ}}, have [[mercy]] on | ||
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me.” In the morning, the man came out of his coma and thanked her profusely. She asked | me.” In the morning, the man came out of his coma and thanked her profusely. She asked | ||
him why he was thanking her. He told her, | him why he was thanking her. He told her, | ||
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Doing the [[Essential]] [[Phowa]] after someone [[dies]] brings [[benefit]] for both the deceased | Doing the [[Essential]] [[Phowa]] after someone [[dies]] brings [[benefit]] for both the deceased | ||
and for the survivors. A Palliative Care director guides this [[meditation]] in a nondenominational way at the center's 6-month memorial service. She gets many grateful | and for the survivors. A Palliative Care director guides this [[meditation]] in a nondenominational way at the center's 6-month memorial service. She gets many grateful | ||
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responses. The {{Wiki|Medical}} Director introduces it this way: “Different cultures around the [[world]] | responses. The {{Wiki|Medical}} Director introduces it this way: “Different cultures around the [[world]] | ||
have ways of [[offering]] [[spiritual]] support after someone has [[died]], and here's a very beautiful | have ways of [[offering]] [[spiritual]] support after someone has [[died]], and here's a very beautiful | ||
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The technique of [[visualization]] can be an invaluable support for caregivers who want | The technique of [[visualization]] can be an invaluable support for caregivers who want | ||
to embody [[compassionate]] presence. Especially when facing really difficult or challenging | to embody [[compassionate]] presence. Especially when facing really difficult or challenging | ||
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situations, [[visualizing]] a [[loving]] or [[divine]] presence can help you stay centered, [[peaceful]] and at | situations, [[visualizing]] a [[loving]] or [[divine]] presence can help you stay centered, [[peaceful]] and at | ||
ease. Dame Cicely Saunders, the founder of the {{Wiki|modern}} hospice {{Wiki|movement}}, said, | ease. Dame Cicely Saunders, the founder of the {{Wiki|modern}} hospice {{Wiki|movement}}, said, | ||
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presence and ask, “Please help this [[person]] with your [[compassion]] and [[blessings]]. Please guide | presence and ask, “Please help this [[person]] with your [[compassion]] and [[blessings]]. Please guide | ||
me, so I know how to help.” | me, so I know how to help.” | ||
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Especially, the practice of [[Essential]] [[Phowa]] can help nourish and inspire you, thus | Especially, the practice of [[Essential]] [[Phowa]] can help nourish and inspire you, thus | ||
preventing burnout. | preventing burnout. | ||
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Even though an [[enlightened being]] is {{Wiki|present}} as soon as we invoke them, the power | Even though an [[enlightened being]] is {{Wiki|present}} as soon as we invoke them, the power | ||
of their presence and [[blessings]] is heightened by the strength of our genuine [[devotion]]. | of their presence and [[blessings]] is heightened by the strength of our genuine [[devotion]]. | ||
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Whichever presence you choose to invoke, it’s important to establish a relationship of | Whichever presence you choose to invoke, it’s important to establish a relationship of | ||
[[openness]], longing and [[respect]], and to sincerely ask, from the depths of your being, for the | [[openness]], longing and [[respect]], and to sincerely ask, from the depths of your being, for the | ||
[[blessings]] streaming from this Presence to fully enter you and [[awaken]] your [[wisdom nature]]. | [[blessings]] streaming from this Presence to fully enter you and [[awaken]] your [[wisdom nature]]. | ||
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After concluding your practice of [[Essential]] [[Phowa]], resolve to sustain this [[Divine]] | After concluding your practice of [[Essential]] [[Phowa]], resolve to sustain this [[Divine]] | ||
presence in the [[space]] above you, and consider that it’s above the head of everyone you | presence in the [[space]] above you, and consider that it’s above the head of everyone you | ||
meet. Then your every [[action]], [[word]], or [[thought]] becomes a living [[prayer]]. | meet. Then your every [[action]], [[word]], or [[thought]] becomes a living [[prayer]]. | ||
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If we generate such a deep and {{Wiki|sincere}} [[devotion]] in our daily practice, then when we | If we generate such a deep and {{Wiki|sincere}} [[devotion]] in our daily practice, then when we | ||
do the [[Essential]] [[Phowa]] for a [[person]] who is [[suffering]] or dying, it will be easier to invoke this | do the [[Essential]] [[Phowa]] for a [[person]] who is [[suffering]] or dying, it will be easier to invoke this | ||
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[[Divine]] Presence and bring their [[compassionate]] [[blessings]] to the [[person]] in {{Wiki|distress}}. | [[Divine]] Presence and bring their [[compassionate]] [[blessings]] to the [[person]] in {{Wiki|distress}}. | ||
David, an emergency-room doctor in a major city hospital, told me how stressful his | David, an emergency-room doctor in a major city hospital, told me how stressful his | ||
job used to be, and how he was getting close to burnout. | job used to be, and how he was getting close to burnout. | ||
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He told me, “Families panic at the time of [[death]], call 911, and bring their loved one to the emergency room to [[die]]. When they | He told me, “Families panic at the time of [[death]], call 911, and bring their loved one to the emergency room to [[die]]. When they | ||
arrive, they're not prepared in any way for what is about to happen. What I see is enormous | arrive, they're not prepared in any way for what is about to happen. What I see is enormous | ||
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{{Wiki|fear}}, [[confusion]], [[anxiety]] and helplessness. The way I used to deal with the situation was | {{Wiki|fear}}, [[confusion]], [[anxiety]] and helplessness. The way I used to deal with the situation was | ||
through [[detachment]]. Outside of doing my best for the {{Wiki|patient}}, I figured there was no way I | through [[detachment]]. Outside of doing my best for the {{Wiki|patient}}, I figured there was no way I | ||
could impact their situation at all. | could impact their situation at all. | ||
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“Then, telling a [[family]] that their loved one has [[died]] or is dying was one of the things | “Then, telling a [[family]] that their loved one has [[died]] or is dying was one of the things | ||
I hated most about my job. Often the [[family]] reacted to me with {{Wiki|hostility}} and [[anger]]. The | I hated most about my job. Often the [[family]] reacted to me with {{Wiki|hostility}} and [[anger]]. The | ||
work was {{Wiki|fearful}} and [[unpleasant]] for me.” | work was {{Wiki|fearful}} and [[unpleasant]] for me.” | ||
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David asked me: “How can I offer [[spiritual]] [[care]] for [[people]] who are dying, in the | David asked me: “How can I offer [[spiritual]] [[care]] for [[people]] who are dying, in the | ||
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[[die]] I have to rush over and work on the next {{Wiki|patient}}. Even when it's not so busy, if we’ve | [[die]] I have to rush over and work on the next {{Wiki|patient}}. Even when it's not so busy, if we’ve | ||
failed to save a person's [[life]], everyone just walks away from the [[body]].” | failed to save a person's [[life]], everyone just walks away from the [[body]].” | ||
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When you train in [[medicine]], especially emergency resuscitation, you learn and | When you train in [[medicine]], especially emergency resuscitation, you learn and | ||
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[[intention]] that the [[meditation]] may truly [[benefit]] and help those who [[suffer]]. At the | [[intention]] that the [[meditation]] may truly [[benefit]] and help those who [[suffer]]. At the | ||
conclusion, dissolve your being into the [[Buddha]], {{Wiki|Christ}}, or whichever [[enlightened being]] you | conclusion, dissolve your being into the [[Buddha]], {{Wiki|Christ}}, or whichever [[enlightened being]] you | ||
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have invoked, and once again enter your daily [[activities]]. Then, you can bring this [[Divine]] | have invoked, and once again enter your daily [[activities]]. Then, you can bring this [[Divine]] | ||
Presence with you into the hospital or your workplace, continually praying to the Presence | Presence with you into the hospital or your workplace, continually praying to the Presence | ||
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Presence to help him or her. [[Visualize]] that the [[Divine]] Presence shines powerful {{Wiki|light}} rays of | Presence to help him or her. [[Visualize]] that the [[Divine]] Presence shines powerful {{Wiki|light}} rays of | ||
[[compassion]] and [[blessing]] onto the [[person]], purifying any {{Wiki|fear}} or anguish in his [[heart]] and | [[compassion]] and [[blessing]] onto the [[person]], purifying any {{Wiki|fear}} or anguish in his [[heart]] and | ||
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[[mind]]. Pray that, if possible, he or she may be healed and survive this crisis. If they [[die]] in | [[mind]]. Pray that, if possible, he or she may be healed and survive this crisis. If they [[die]] in | ||
spite of your {{Wiki|medical}} intervention, then [[visualize]] your patient’s [[consciousness]] in the [[form]] of | spite of your {{Wiki|medical}} intervention, then [[visualize]] your patient’s [[consciousness]] in the [[form]] of | ||
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a small [[sphere]] of {{Wiki|light}} flashing out from their [[body]] like a shooting [[star]] and dissolving | a small [[sphere]] of {{Wiki|light}} flashing out from their [[body]] like a shooting [[star]] and dissolving | ||
completely into the [[heart]] of the [[Divine]] Presence. Later, after coming home from work, you | completely into the [[heart]] of the [[Divine]] Presence. Later, after coming home from work, you | ||
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“Since I started doing [[spiritual practice]] in the emergency room, I've watched the | “Since I started doing [[spiritual practice]] in the emergency room, I've watched the | ||
person's expression in the final few minutes of [[life]] change to one of [[acceptance]], sometimes | person's expression in the final few minutes of [[life]] change to one of [[acceptance]], sometimes | ||
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even a gentle [[smile]], replacing the {{Wiki|fear}} and [[anxiety]]. It looks like an opening, a [[release]]. Then, | even a gentle [[smile]], replacing the {{Wiki|fear}} and [[anxiety]]. It looks like an opening, a [[release]]. Then, | ||
when I have to go and tell a [[family]] that their loved one has [[died]], I notice an enormous | when I have to go and tell a [[family]] that their loved one has [[died]], I notice an enormous | ||
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difference in their {{Wiki|reaction}}. [[Family]] members often will thank me and even come up and hug | difference in their {{Wiki|reaction}}. [[Family]] members often will thank me and even come up and hug | ||
me. This new [[experience]] I'm having since doing my [[spiritual practice]] in the hospital has | me. This new [[experience]] I'm having since doing my [[spiritual practice]] in the hospital has |
Revision as of 13:16, 1 January 2024
The Essential Phowa meditation, introduced in The Tibetan Book of Living and Dying
by Sogyal Rinpoche, is adapted from a Buddhist meditation normally used for the time of
dying and death. This meditation is written in a way that anyone can relate with, whether or
not they are affiliated with a faith tradition. However, it can also be used to support physical
and emotional healing and to transform suffering, guilt or grief. If we have a loved one who
is ill, or in pain, or facing death, we can quietly do this meditation to help bring them peace.
Essential Phowa is an effective spiritual guidance for people at the moment of death, to
guide their consciousness to a state of peace, clarity, and freedom.
There are recordings of two versions: Essential Phowa for Oneself, and Essential
Phowa for Others.
Why is the Essential Phowa valuable to do?
According to Buddhist teachings, what counts at the moment of our death is how we lived our life, and the state of our mind and heart in that moment. Of course, we cannot change the way someone lived, but this meditation has the power to purify a person’s mind
and heart while they are dying. If the dying person is confused or in a coma, we may see
signs that the meditation is still having an effect on their mind and heart.
By doing the Essential Phowa regularly and observing the effect, our confidence
grows in its power to benefit people at such a crucial moment. And, we come to realize that
this meditation is a meaningful way of communicating heart-to-heart with others. Even
visualizing a loving presence while we’re working or sitting in a hospital room creates an
atmosphere of peace or sacredness.
This meditation is especially effective in the first days or weeks after someone has
died and, it can be offered any time afterwards, even years later.
If you have a friend or family member who is open to learning this meditation, you
can share this with them. People adapt it in all sorts of ways to make it work for them. Some
people, for example, just resonate with the first part: visualizing a loving presence in the
room with them.
A nun told me once that she spent the night monitoring at the bedside of a man
who was comatose following a suicide attempt. All night long, she silently offered her
spiritual practice for him, which is called The Jesus prayer: “Lord, Jesus Christ, have mercy on
me.” In the morning, the man came out of his coma and thanked her profusely. She asked
him why he was thanking her. He told her,
“All night long, I kept falling into a deep abyss, and when I heard your prayer, it
pulled me out.”
Doing the Essential Phowa after someone dies brings benefit for both the deceased and for the survivors. A Palliative Care director guides this meditation in a nondenominational way at the center's 6-month memorial service. She gets many grateful
responses. The Medical Director introduces it this way: “Different cultures around the world
have ways of offering spiritual support after someone has died, and here's a very beautiful
one I would like to share with you.”
Visualizing as a support for medical professionals
The technique of visualization can be an invaluable support for caregivers who want to embody compassionate presence. Especially when facing really difficult or challenging
situations, visualizing a loving or divine presence can help you stay centered, peaceful and at
ease. Dame Cicely Saunders, the founder of the modern hospice movement, said,
“Always remember, when you are at the bedside of a dying person, you are never
alone.”
When you are serving people who are in great distress, you can visualize a loving presence and ask, “Please help this person with your compassion and blessings. Please guide me, so I know how to help.”
Especially, the practice of Essential Phowa can help nourish and inspire you, thus
preventing burnout.
Integrating the Essential Phowa Practice
There are two reasons the Essential Phowa can bring invaluable spiritual support to
those who suffer: first, the dire circumstances the person is in, and second, the ability of an
enlightened being to bring their compassion and blessings to the person for whom we are
praying.
Even though an enlightened being is present as soon as we invoke them, the power of their presence and blessings is heightened by the strength of our genuine devotion.
Whichever presence you choose to invoke, it’s important to establish a relationship of
openness, longing and respect, and to sincerely ask, from the depths of your being, for the
blessings streaming from this Presence to fully enter you and awaken your wisdom nature.
After concluding your practice of Essential Phowa, resolve to sustain this Divine
presence in the space above you, and consider that it’s above the head of everyone you
meet. Then your every action, word, or thought becomes a living prayer.
If we generate such a deep and sincere devotion in our daily practice, then when we do the Essential Phowa for a person who is suffering or dying, it will be easier to invoke this
Divine Presence and bring their compassionate blessings to the person in distress.
David, an emergency-room doctor in a major city hospital, told me how stressful his
job used to be, and how he was getting close to burnout.
He told me, “Families panic at the time of death, call 911, and bring their loved one to the emergency room to die. When they arrive, they're not prepared in any way for what is about to happen. What I see is enormous
fear, confusion, anxiety and helplessness. The way I used to deal with the situation was
through detachment. Outside of doing my best for the patient, I figured there was no way I
could impact their situation at all.
“Then, telling a family that their loved one has died or is dying was one of the things
I hated most about my job. Often the family reacted to me with hostility and anger. The
work was fearful and unpleasant for me.”
David asked me: “How can I offer spiritual care for people who are dying, in the
midst of a medical crisis? I am doing my best to save one person's life, but right after they
die I have to rush over and work on the next patient. Even when it's not so busy, if we’ve
failed to save a person's life, everyone just walks away from the body.”
When you train in medicine, especially emergency resuscitation, you learn and
repeatedly practice many lifesaving techniques, so that in a crisis situation you’ll be able to
act reflexively, without thinking. You can train in your spiritual practice the same way, so
you’re able to bring its benefits spontaneously to every situation.
Practice the Essential Phowa every day before going to work, with a compassionate intention that the meditation may truly benefit and help those who suffer. At the conclusion, dissolve your being into the Buddha, Christ, or whichever enlightened being you
have invoked, and once again enter your daily activities. Then, you can bring this Divine
Presence with you into the hospital or your workplace, continually praying to the Presence
as you care for your patients or clients.
If you have a patient on the edge of life and death, pray fervently to the Divine
Presence to help him or her. Visualize that the Divine Presence shines powerful light rays of
compassion and blessing onto the person, purifying any fear or anguish in his heart and
mind. Pray that, if possible, he or she may be healed and survive this crisis. If they die in
spite of your medical intervention, then visualize your patient’s consciousness in the form of
a small sphere of light flashing out from their body like a shooting star and dissolving
completely into the heart of the Divine Presence. Later, after coming home from work, you
may want to do the Essential Phowa practice in a more complete way for all the patients you
attended during the day.
David wrote me later to describe how his experience has changed since he began
integrating his spiritual practice at work.
“Since I started doing spiritual practice in the emergency room, I've watched the
person's expression in the final few minutes of life change to one of acceptance, sometimes
even a gentle smile, replacing the fear and anxiety. It looks like an opening, a release. Then,
when I have to go and tell a family that their loved one has died, I notice an enormous
difference in their reaction. Family members often will thank me and even come up and hug
me. This new experience I'm having since doing my spiritual practice in the hospital has
transformed my life and my medical practice.”