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| − | Love (''mettā, pema, piya'' or ''sineha'') is a feeling of warm affection, interest and concern towards others and is the first of the four Brahma Vihāras. Buddhaghosa defines love like this: | + | [[Love]] (''[[mettā]], [[pema]], [[piya]]'' or ''[[sineha]]'') is a [[feeling]] of warm {{Wiki|affection}}, [[interest]] and [[concern]] towards others and is the first of the [[four Brahma Vihāras]]. [[Buddhaghosa]] defines [[love]] like this: ‘[[Love]] is characterised as promoting the {{Wiki|welfare}} of others, its [[function]] is to [[desire]] their {{Wiki|welfare}}, it [[manifests]] as the removal of [[annoyance]] and its proximate [[cause]] is [[seeing]] the loveableness of [[beings]].’ The [[Dhammasaṅgani]] (Dhs.1056) says that the three most important constituents of [[love]] are fellow-feeling (''[[anuddāya]]''), {{Wiki|empathy}} (''[[anuddāyanā]]'') and [[consideration]] (''[[anuddāyitatta]]''). The [[Buddha]] spoke of many different types of [[love]], some of which do not have English equivalents; warm regard (ādara), [[loving]] commitment (''[[daḷhabhatta]]''), genial [[love]] (''[[hita]]''), intense [[love]] (''[[kāma]]''), [[love]] of one’s mother (''[[matteyya]]''), [[love]] of one’s father (''[[petteyya]]''), devoted [[love]] (''[[sambhajeyya]]'') . |
| − | To be psychologically healthy and happy we have to begin by loving ourselves and our direct family. As we grow and mature, we gradually learn to include more individuals in our love – friends, spouse, in-laws, children, etc. To develop into a truly spiritual person, our love has to eventually pervade all the beings we come into contact with. In this process of changing love from being limited to becoming more pervasive, selfishness, jealousy, attachment and the demand for reciprocation gradually subside and love becomes strong, undiscriminating and effortless. The Buddha said to his disciples: ‘You should train yourselves like this: “Our minds shall not be perverted nor shall we speak evil speech but with kindness and compassion we will live with a mind free from hatred and filled with love. We will live suffusing firstly one person with love and starting with them, suffuse the whole world with a love that is expansive, pervasive, immeasurable and utterly devoid of hatred or enmity.” This is how you should train yourselves.’ (M.I,127). | + | |
| − | The ancient Sri Lankan work, the Dharmapradīpikā, composed in the 12th century, says this of love: ‘If one has developed love really great, rid of the desire to hold and possess, that strong clean love which is untarnished by lust, that love that does not expect gain or profit, that love that is firm but not grasping, unshakeable but not inflexible, gentle and settled, hard but unhurting, helpful but not interfering, giving more than receiving, dignified but not proud, soft but not sentimental, that love which leads to the highest achievement, then one will be freed from all ill-will.’ See Altruism, Food, Harmony, Directions, Measuring and Merit. | + | To be {{Wiki|psychologically}} healthy and [[happy]] we have to begin by [[loving]] ourselves and our direct family. As we grow and mature, we gradually learn to include more {{Wiki|individuals}} in our [[love]] – friends, spouse, in-laws, children, etc. To develop into a truly [[spiritual]] [[person]], our [[love]] has to eventually pervade all the [[beings]] we come into [[contact]] with. In this process of changing [[love]] from being limited to becoming more {{Wiki|pervasive}}, [[selfishness]], [[jealousy]], [[attachment]] and the demand for reciprocation gradually subside and [[love]] becomes strong, undiscriminating and effortless. The [[Buddha]] said to his [[disciples]]: ‘You should train yourselves like this: “Our [[minds]] shall not be perverted nor shall we speak [[evil]] {{Wiki|speech}} but with [[kindness]] and [[compassion]] we will live with a [[mind]] free from [[hatred]] and filled with [[love]]. We will live suffusing firstly one [[person]] with [[love]] and starting with them, suffuse the whole [[world]] with a [[love]] that is expansive, {{Wiki|pervasive}}, [[immeasurable]] and utterly devoid of [[hatred]] or [[enmity]].” This is how you should train yourselves.’ (M.I,127). |
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| + | The {{Wiki|ancient}} [[Sri Lankan]] work, the [[Dharmapradīpikā]], composed in the 12th century, says this of [[love]]: ‘If one has developed [[love]] really great, rid of the [[desire]] to hold and possess, that strong clean [[love]] which is untarnished by [[lust]], that [[love]] that does not expect gain or profit, that [[love]] that is firm but not [[grasping]], unshakeable but not inflexible, gentle and settled, hard but unhurting, helpful but not interfering, giving more than receiving, dignified but not proud, soft but not sentimental, that [[love]] which leads to the [[highest]] [[achievement]], then one will be freed from all [[ill-will]].’ See [[Altruism]], [[Food]], [[Harmony]], [[Directions]], [[Measuring]] and [[Merit]]. | ||
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Latest revision as of 16:41, 6 March 2014
Love (mettā, pema, piya or sineha) is a feeling of warm affection, interest and concern towards others and is the first of the four Brahma Vihāras. Buddhaghosa defines love like this: ‘Love is characterised as promoting the welfare of others, its function is to desire their welfare, it manifests as the removal of annoyance and its proximate cause is seeing the loveableness of beings.’ The Dhammasaṅgani (Dhs.1056) says that the three most important constituents of love are fellow-feeling (anuddāya), empathy (anuddāyanā) and consideration (anuddāyitatta). The Buddha spoke of many different types of love, some of which do not have English equivalents; warm regard (ādara), loving commitment (daḷhabhatta), genial love (hita), intense love (kāma), love of one’s mother (matteyya), love of one’s father (petteyya), devoted love (sambhajeyya) .
To be psychologically healthy and happy we have to begin by loving ourselves and our direct family. As we grow and mature, we gradually learn to include more individuals in our love – friends, spouse, in-laws, children, etc. To develop into a truly spiritual person, our love has to eventually pervade all the beings we come into contact with. In this process of changing love from being limited to becoming more pervasive, selfishness, jealousy, attachment and the demand for reciprocation gradually subside and love becomes strong, undiscriminating and effortless. The Buddha said to his disciples: ‘You should train yourselves like this: “Our minds shall not be perverted nor shall we speak evil speech but with kindness and compassion we will live with a mind free from hatred and filled with love. We will live suffusing firstly one person with love and starting with them, suffuse the whole world with a love that is expansive, pervasive, immeasurable and utterly devoid of hatred or enmity.” This is how you should train yourselves.’ (M.I,127).
The ancient Sri Lankan work, the Dharmapradīpikā, composed in the 12th century, says this of love: ‘If one has developed love really great, rid of the desire to hold and possess, that strong clean love which is untarnished by lust, that love that does not expect gain or profit, that love that is firm but not grasping, unshakeable but not inflexible, gentle and settled, hard but unhurting, helpful but not interfering, giving more than receiving, dignified but not proud, soft but not sentimental, that love which leads to the highest achievement, then one will be freed from all ill-will.’ See Altruism, Food, Harmony, Directions, Measuring and Merit.
